Mitchell Milch, LCSW/Phone:201-647-6607
HealthyMindSets.Com

Will you talk to anyone except your partner to avoid potential conflicts because any intimate discussions about your relationship become exasperating, painful and ultimately depressing cycles of attack and counterattack? Do you hold onto the belief that it's up to you to find a way to make your partner be more respectful and once you do you will be more deserving of love and acceptance and your abusive relationship will end? Does your self esteem rise and fall like an unstable stock market as if everyone controls how you feel about yourself except you? Do you expect perfection of yourself and others and find yourself feeling undeserving and/or unappreciative of the love and support available to you? Is this the crux of your stress management problems? Do you ever feel so empty, numb or cut off from yourself that the pain of feeling useless and worthless to yourself and others drives you to drink, drug, eat, gamble, spend, or have sex for to escape your misery? Are you at a loss to find and trust anyone to accept your weaknesses and vulnerabilites, and support your recovery from an addiction? If you can identify with the stories above then, you are not alone and I can help. I will provide you a space of safety and security and together we will answer the question: What tools, strategies, and mindsets must I help you develop and apply to improve your capacities to love, work and play.
Do you feel caught up in a Catch 22 of not pleasing your partner, not being considered because you never do enough, and yet no matter how unhappy you become you are still too terrified of rejection and/or abandonment to stand up for yourself? Are you convinced rightfully so that until you can free yourself up from paralyzing anxieties that you will not be able to effectively use assertiveness training and conflict resolution strategies?
Who Am I As A Helping Professional?
I am a licensed clinical social worker with five plus years of postgraduate education. I have worked as a psychotherapist and couples counselor for 16 years, have taught at universities, and have written many articles found on this website. I see it as my calling to help others grow and make meaningful choices that will bring them greater happiness and serenity.
My jobs are to help clients trust their choice of goals as worthy of their time and energies, to educate them on how we will make their goals a reality, and support them to overcome any fears they might have of breaking old habits and trying new ways of being.
Our relationships are designed to be positive role models to be used as guides for creating satisfying and meaningful relationships outside my office. Compassion, concern, kindness, empathy, respect and consideration are the values that guide my work and build my clients' trust and confidence that I will use my skills and talents to further their best interests at all times.
If you are interested in setting up a consultation please call me at 201-647-6607 or send me an e-mail at mhmilch@healthymindsets.com
Professional Affiliations
The Institute For Psychoanalysis & Psychotherapy Of N.J.
National Association Of Social Workers