Mitchell Milch, LCSW
Phone: 201-647-6607
E-mail: mhmilch@healthymindsets.com
HealthyMindSets.Com
Hello! Thank you for visiting my website. Do you feel caught up in a Catch 22 of not pleasing your partner, not being considered because you never do enough, and yet no matter how unhappy you become you are still too terrified of rejection and/or abandonment to stand up for yourself? Do you expect perfection of yourself and others and find yourself feeling undeserving and/or unappreciative of the love and support available to you? Is this the crux of your stress management problems?
Do you ever feel so empty, numb or cut off from yourself that the pain of feeling useless and worthless to yourself and others drives you to drink, drug, eat, gamble, spend, or have sex for to escape your misery? Are you convinced rightfully so that until you can free yourself up from paralyzing anxieties that you will not be able to effectively use assertiveness training and conflict resolution strategies? If you can identify with the stories above then, you are not alone and I can help. How Does Psychotherapy Work? Another helpful metaphor and teaching tool is the renovation of a building. Just like a building that depends on scaffolding to maintain the structure’s integrity while it’s weight bearing supports are being reinforced or replaced, I lend my experience, creativity and training to help you maintain the structural integrity or infrastructure of the mindsets you currently use to navigate your way through life. Meanwhile, together we replace, rehabilitate, strengthen and rebuild obsolete, self-defeating, misleading and ineffective mindsets that have brought you into psychotherapy. Once the renovation is complete, you will have grown in your trust and appreciation of your creative capacities for engineering desired change in your life so as to render the scaffolding(my services), no longer necessary. Professional Affiliations
Please take this opportunity to tour my website and listen to the stories of folks just like you who took their inspired visions seriously and made them self-fulfilling prohecies. Below are examples of challenges overcome by patients who became clear on what they wanted to change, and then learned to attract responses of others consistent with their reinvented self images.
Will you talk to anyone except your partner to avoid potential conflicts because any intimate discussions about your relationship become exasperating, painful and ultimately depressing cycles of attack and counterattack?
Do you hold onto the belief that it's up to you to find a way to make your partner be more respectful and once you do you will be more deserving of love and acceptance and your abusive relationship will end?
Are you at a loss to find and trust anyone to accept your weaknesses and vulnerabilites, and support your recovery from an addiction?
Does your self esteem rise and fall like an unstable stock market as if everyone controls how you feel about yourself except you?
Who Am I As A Helping Professional?
I am a licensed clinical social worker with five plus years of postgraduate education. I have worked as a psychotherapist and couples counselor for 16 years, have taught at universities, and have written many articles found on this website. I see it as my calling to help others grow and make meaningful choices that will bring them greater happiness and serenity.
My jobs are to help clients trust their choice of goals as worthy of their time and energies, to educate them on how we will make their goals a reality, and support them to overcome any fears they might have of breaking old habits and trying new ways of being.
Our relationships are designed to be positive role models to be used as guides for creating satisfying and meaningful relationships outside my office. Compassion, concern, kindness, empathy, respect and consideration are the values that guide my work and build my clients' trust and confidence that I will use my skills and talents to further their best interests at all times.
A greenhouse is a controlled environment that establishes as close to ideal conditions as possible to protect and nurture growing plants during their stages of greatest vulnerability to potentially inhospitable outside forces. The greenhouse is an excellent metaphor to describe the therapeutic alliance. It’s a warm environment controlled to maximize conditions that encourage and promote your freedom and safety to experiment risk free, with new ways of relating to and trying out effective strategies for achieving your most cherished goals.
The Institute For Psychoanalysis & Psychotherapy Of N.J.
National Association Of Social Workers